Olivia Jade, social media influencer and daughter of Full House star Lori Loughlin, received negative messages on her Instagram account and on her YouTube channel due to the scandal of the entrance exams. Since the online bullying has continued, Olivia Jade has disabled comments on her social media accounts. The YouTuber also reportedly decided to withdraw from the University of Southern California for fear that school bullying would continue.
Bullying online can have a negative impact on your mental health, especially if you are a child or a young adult. What should you do if your child is confronted with online bullying, especially if you are a well-known member of your community in a public crisis? How can you ensure that his or her mental health does not deteriorate? The Cheat Sheet has contacted a number of experts in the field of relationship and mental health to get their advice.
Provide a safe space for your child
Protect them as well as possible. It might be a good time for them to go to grandma’s or another safe place, especially when it comes to media. School is not necessarily a safe place. They can be teased and taunted, and the press might find them. Talk to the school about how they can stay up-to-date with their studies and keep them out of the public eye. Explain in terms that they can understand that there is a big story in the media, that it is not all true and that you will keep them informed.
Consider having your child attend therapy
Open and direct communication is the best. The age of your children would determine what to share with them. The greatest gift you can give them, however, is to show how you come together as a family to triumph. It is also crucial to have a therapist or coach available to process and extract any emotions, trauma or feelings that may arise.
Try to keep your child away from upsetting details
Keep your children out of your hands as much as possible, but don’t try to protect them from every detail. You cannot determine what they will hear or see, but they do not need to be exposed to the gritty details that you may encounter. At the same time, it is important to discuss with them fairly and at their level what is happening so that they can understand and be prepared to process the comments and responses of others that they are likely to encounter.
Keep your home life as normal as possible
The health of your marriage is a key factor in the emotional, cognitive and social development of your child. Building and maintaining marital health is the best way to protect your children in difficult seasons. Healthy couples who maintain their marital relationship and protect the mental health of their children do four things very well: first, they maintain a close, connected and trusting friendship with each other. Second, they continue to respond to a large majority of each other’s emotional calls or try to make contact with each other. Third, they handle conflicts in a healthy, positive way. And fourth, together they create a deeper shared meaning.