The Bachelor’s franchise does not have the best track history when it comes to producing sustainable couples. According to Life & Style, from 22 seasons of The Bachelor, 14 seasons of The Bachelorette, five seasons Bachelor in Paradise, and a lonely season of The Bachelor Winter Games, there are only 17 couples from the long-term franchise together. That’s not much. Yet we still vote every season in the hope of seeing a witness single that meets the love of their lives in a primetime reality dating show. Hey, there’s nothing wrong with a little optimism.
Although it is always a joy to see love appear on the screen, we have to admit that it is incomprehensibly entertaining to get to know all the drama that is happening along the way. That said, the Bachelor and Bachelorette have shown us some seriously dramatic fractions over the years – some too heartbreakingly uncomfortable to watch more than once. You should probably continue and grab a box of tissues, because we are about to make a sad journey through the memory strip to relive some of the most devastating breaks in the bachelor’s history.
Colton Underwood and Cassie Randolph
Colton Underwood claimed the title “Most Dramatic Break-Up Ever” for his emotionally charged split with precursor, Cassie Randolph.
During the Fantasy Suites-episode of Underwood from the Bachelor’s season of March 2019 – the episode in which the protagonist and each of his last three participants can finally enjoy the privacy in overnight stays without cameras that record every movement – was the former NFL player completely blind when Randolph revealed her doubts about their relationship and her intention to leave the show. The Californian resident gave her the uncertainty about her father’s skeptical view and the refusal to give Underwood his blessing for an engagement, as well as her own feelings.
“Today was perfect and I love you so much, but […] I am not in love,” Randolph revealed to Underwood, who had just announced that he was in love with her. Gently shaken (and shuffled), Underwood vowed never to stop fighting for Randolph – and after being taken away in a limousine, the heartbroken bachelor leaped a fence to get away from the camera crew, disappearing into the Portuguese wilderness. Talk about dramatically.
Arie Luyendyk Jr. and Becca Kufrin
There was no fence to jump during Arie Luyendyk Jr. and the disintegration of Becca Kufrin, but these two will forever be part of the bachelor’s history because of the way their surprising divorce was announced to the world.
In the 22nd season of ABC’s long-running reality dating program, Luyendyk Jr. on one knee and suggested the 27-year-old publicist: “I choose you today, but I choose you every day from here.” Unfortunately, it did not last long.
Immediately after seeing their proposal, bachelors Luyendyk Jr. and Kufrin’s brutal break-up, which was shown and broadcast unedited. No one was more surprised by the split than Kufrin, who had the impression that the production staff were present to capture sweet moments during her romantic weekend with Luyendyk Jr. Instead, the race car driver knew that he could not. I stop thinking about Lauren Burnham, the woman he sent home before eventually representing Kufrin.
Seeing her cry for almost an hour was uncomfortable for the public, but seeing Kufrin found love on The Bachelorette almost compensated.
Andi Dorfman and Nick Viall
Nick Viall’s first appearance (of many appearances) in the bachelor world was at season 10 of The bachelor, in which he fought for the heart of Andi Dorfman – eventually he made it all the way to her last two before the Atlanta lawyer dumped him for Josh Murray. The disintegration was devastating to see, because Viall was unabashedly in love with Dorfman and ready to introduce and spend the rest of his life with her. However, the After the Final Rose special that was broadcast after the season finale of The Bachelorette, was perhaps even more uncomfortable to see.
While chatting with Dorfman and receiving Chris Harrison on the live special, Viall turned to his previous flame and said, “Knowing how in love with you I was … if you were not in love with me, I just do not know why I fell in love with me. “While most people assume that sex takes place behind closed doors during the Fantasy Suite dates, Viall was the first person to take the lead on national television. Needless to say that the recently fiancé Dorfman was not happy.
Juan Pablo Galavis and Clare Crawley
If you are a fan of Andi Dorfman at The Bachelorette, then you must thank Juan Pablo Galavis for starting her Bachelor Nation career by being perhaps the worst bachelor the franchise has ever seen. Dorfman participated as a participant in the controversial season of The Bachelor in Galavis to eliminate themselves when she realized that Galavis was much more interested in repeatedly (and condescendingly) saying “It’s good”, instead of actually listening to everything she had to say.
However, participant Clare Crawley was much more optimistic about the potential of the bachelor, and stayed with him during the season with his ups and downs. When she arrived for the final rose ceremony, ready to accept his proposal, Galavis revealed that he had “said hello” to her, which did not suit Crawley. When he approached her for a goodbye hug, Crawley pushed Galavis away, understandably angry that he waited until the last moment to break things down instead of saving her a heartwave by letting her go earlier.
“I’ve lost respect for you,” Crawley said as she walked away. “I would never want my children to have a father like you.”
Jake Pavelka and Vienna Girardi
Watching Jake Pavelka and Vienna Girardi officially end their relationship on national television, while host Chris Harrison acted as a mediator and felt more like a boxing match than anything else. Pavelka’s Bachelors’ season was a train wreck from start to finish – and his wickedness towards Girardi only reinforced his position as one of the most despised examples in the bachelor’s history.
Only a few weeks after Pavelka shocked viewers by rejecting Tenley Molzahn and proposing Girardi, the indwelling villain of the season, the newest couple of the Bachelor Nation announced their split – starting a shameful firestorm, he said accusations. In the middle of the fire ABC decided to take a sit-down interview with Pavelka, Girardi and Chris Harrison where the couple could listen to their problems and explain what really happened to fans of the show. However, recording took a nasty turn when Girardi accused Pavelka of emotional abuse – an accusation that he denied before he yelled at her to stop him from interrupting.
“He’s the greatest liar I’ve ever met in my life,” Girardi said with tears as she walked off the set.
Jason Mesnick and Melissa Rycroft
Arie Luyendyk Jr. was not the first bachelor who dumped his leading lady for his runner-up. Instead, that unfortunate barrier was broken by Jason Mesnick in 2009.
Mesnick’s season of The Bachelor ended with his presentation to a delighted Melissa Rycroft. Before he fell on one knee, however, he had to send away the other woman who fought for his heart – Molly Malaney. Although Malaney was blind and upset by the decision of Mesnick, the bachelor himself seemed the most devastated of all. After the two parted, the man had a complete collapse, giving birth to a now famous Bachelor clip in which Mesnick is sobbing on a balcony.
It was not long before Mesnick realized that he had made the wrong decision to introduce Rycroft. However, because he was still contractually obliged for the show, Mesnick claimed that bachelor producers had him dumping Rycroft on After the Final Rose to ask Malaney for a new chance.
“I wish more than anything else that you would have let me go the last day”, said Rycroft, after calling Mesnick – ahem – a choice word.
Ali Fedotowsky and Frank Neuschaefer
Ali Fedotowsky and Frank Neuschaefer not only have two of the longest names in Bachelor Nation – they also had one of the most heartbreaking fractions in the history of the franchise.
While the most troubling and memorable splits usually occur when the main role goes away with their second place for engagement with someone else, there have been a few surprising self-eliminations that will forever be remembered as some of the most dramatic moments in Bachelor and Bachelorette history. No really. One of these moments happened when Fedotowsky, the leading lady in the sixth season of The Bachelorette, was blinded by precursor Neuschaefer when he confessed that he still had feelings for an ex-girlfriend and made the decision to leave the show – after which he Fedotowsky left behind in tears.
With a beautiful beach on Tahiti as the backdrop for the heartbreaking moment, Neuschaefer told Fedotowsky that he had flown to Chicago before he arrived on Tahiti to have a conversation with his ex-girlfriend in the hope of getting a break – but instead of it, as he confessed, “all old feelings came back hurriedly.”
“He’s the biggest jerk I’ve ever known,” Fedotowsky said.
Ashley Hebert and Bentley Williams
The self-elimination of Bentley Williams is possibly the most iconic of all time. And because of his obvious manipulation and viciousness – his decision to leave was welcomed by viewers.
Not only was Williams the indwelling villain in the seventh season of The Bachelorette, he was just a straight acorn – and that, too, shamelessly. Unfortunately, Ashley Hebert was too fond of Williams to recognize the ten million red flags surrounding her relationship – although former bachelor member Michelle Money warned Hebert before her season even began that Williams only signed up for the show to promote his trampoline activities . Yes, you read that correctly – his trampoline company.
Williams freely confessed to the camera that he did not respond to Hebert at all and revealed: “I have said from the beginning that she is not mine.” In the third episode of the season, the trampoline professional broke things off with the bachelor, and told her that he missed his daughter too much to stay on the show. However, he told the camera a different story, called Hebert an “ugly duckling” and said things would have been different if the bachelorette had been Emily Maynard.
Desiree Hartsock and Brooks Forester
Oh, Brooks Forester. While he eventually made the decision to leave Desiree Hartsock in the ninth season of The Bachelorette, the former participant remained a fan favorite among the bachelor-nation because of the raw emotion and sincere affection he showed for Hartsock, even though he said goodbye.
Forester seemed to throw a hike at Hartsock’s heart all season long, and the bachelor was not shy to confess to the camera that he was the man with whom she saw herself after everything had been said and done. However, for the date night of the Couple’s Fantasy Suite in romantic Antigua, Forester Hartsock pulled out to tell her that, while he loved so many things about her, she was not sure that their relationship would lead to a marriage. “The moments apart just do not feel hard enough,” Forester confessed a howling Hartsock.
After much sobbing from both Forester and Hartsock, the bachelorette revealed: “I do not know what to say, I love you.” His face was full of emotions and Forester asked why she had not told him before, to which she replied, “I would tell you today.”
Forester later admitted to the camera that he had already missed the moments he shared with Hartsock.
Rachel Lindsay and Peter Kraus
Never was a Bachelorette participant more popular than Peter Kraus. After his break with Rachel Lindsay many fans (and expected) wanted Kraus to be announced as the next bachelor – but unfortunately Arie Luyendyk Jr. chosen. Of course this felt like a personal attack on Kraus’ many superfans who desperately wanted to see how the former Bachelorette participant found true love after he had broken his heart on national television.
The break between Kraus and Lindsay is still one of the most discussed bationnational splits, because the two seemed to have been made for each other. Although Kraus wanted to take it easy and want to stay in the real world instead of making an appointment, Lindsay insisted that she leave the show as an engaged woman. Finally, Kraus told Lindsay that he would suggest that he should do that to be with her, but Lindsay said she felt that he would blame her if she allowed it. After cuddling and crying for what seemed like hours, the two ways separated after their Fantasy Suite date, and Lindsay is still engaged to her last choice, Bryan Abasolo
Ben Higgins and JoJo Fletcher
As every Bachelor fan knows, there is an unspoken rule throughout the franchise that the lead can not confess his or her love to a participant until the last rose ceremony, where they will seal their relationship with an engagement (presumably). Ben Higgins, however, went rogue and confessed his love for not only one of the women fighting for his affection – only two. Viewers saw how Higgins said these three small words to his last two women: JoJo Fletcher and Lauren Bushnell. Of course, both women were delighted with his confession – and both thought he was the woman who would ask Higgins to be his wife.
However, it all came together when Higgins confessed a broken heart and JoJo blinded that he, finding love with her, found him with someone else. He suggested to Bushnell after sending Fletcher home with tears, but his fiancé later admitted that seeing Higgins confessed his love to another woman who felt like “a slap in the belly.” The couple split up in May 2017.
Britt Nilsson and Chris Soules
Britt Nilsson may not be an active part of the Bachelor Nation today, but just a few years ago, this gal made the headlines for her polarized personality at full throttle as she fought for the heart of Chris Soules.
While Nilsson immediately gave the impression of being a calm, kind and gentle person, the viewers witnessed a surprisingly murdering side of the bachelor participant the moment she felt she was no longer the forerunner in Soule’s mind. During a group meeting with Soules and co-candidates Kaitlyn Bristowe and Carly Waddell, Nilsson lost her composure when Bristowe received the group date, guaranteeing a very important birthday. Nilsson had just had a soul-to-heart (and steamy make-out session) with Soules, and seeing another woman who had been validated for her was a situation she simply could not handle.
“I’m not angry, I’m just confused and really, really hurt right now,” Nilsson told Soules for Bristowe and Waddell when she did not receive the rose. Soules sent Nilsson to sob at home later – and the tears continued to flow when she appeared on the hot chair during the Women Tell All Special.
Kaitlyn Bristowe and Shawn Booth
As you may recall, the 11th season of The Bachelorette was heavily criticized for the fact that two leading ladies – Kaitlyn Bristowe and Britt Nilsson – voted the male suitors for the woman they wanted to date. Eventually, Bristowe got the majority of the votes, and poor Nilsson had another tear-stained limo exit.
From the first episode of Bristowe’s season, there was a crystal clear precursor: Shawn Booth. Although Booth greeted Nilsson with a gigantic hug on arrival at the mansion, he snapped at Bristowe right away and confessed: “You are the reason I am here.” Eventually, Bristowe accepted Booth’s proposal in the season finale, and it seemed as if the two were one of the rare success stories of Bachelorette. However, after three years of being engaged and having fought against rumors of an imminent break, the couple called off their engagement.
Bristowe talked about the split on her podcast, Off The Vine, and said through tears (via people): “I really thought we would get through it […] I thought we would choose the road where we would end up together . “
Becca Kufrin and Blake Horstmann
As you probably know, host Chris Harrison refers to literally every season finale of a bachelor franchise as “the most dramatic season finale ever”. However, Becca Kufrin who broke up with Blake Horstmann in the 22nd season of The Bachelorette did indeed result in the most dramatic Bachelorette finale ever – and to be honest, we are still not over it.
Poor Horstmann was blinded and incredibly confused when Kufrin confessed that she had stronger feelings for Garrett Yrigoyen and sent the resident of Colorado home just as he was getting ready to introduce – and he was not alone in his confusion. The majority of the Bachelor Nation thought that Horstmann and Kufrin would leave the show as an engaged couple, especially since Kufrin confessed in a one-to-one interview (via Elite Daily): “I am in love with Blake and I can not imagine that I Blake in my life. “
Horstmann was so surprised by Kufrin’s decision that he almost needed medical attention. A source revealed to us weekly: “Producers thought that Blake would faint […] His mouth dried up, he turned pale and suddenly started to drip dry.