There is an important reason why Meghan Markle needs her mother Doria when she gives birth this month.
Not only has the duchess reportedly decided not to hire staff to help her with her first child with husband Prince Harry, but it is said that she lives with minimal staff in their new home at Windsor Cottage in Windsor.
But there is one thing that every woman needs when she has a baby, and especially the first time.
Doria is making plans to be in London for the birth.
When a woman becomes a mother, she wants her mother. No one can take her place.
And all signs point to Doria Ragland, 62, who joins the Duke and Duchess of Sussex in Windsor for the birth of her first grandchild and then for a longer stay thereafter.
Doria was on her daughter’s side when she married Prince Harry in 2018, and has been a source of peace and stability for the Duchess of Cambridge. Now that Meghan will give birth to a new royal family every day, she will trust her mother more than ever.
The moment I became a mother, I was immediately filled with an in-depth understanding of my own mother, with whom I had experienced the typical ups and downs of every mother and daughter.
We loved each other more than we could ever express, but could anger and irritate each other like no other, especially when I was a teenager and when I was in my early twenties before I became a mother.
I had my first child when I was 27.
My mother was by my side as I struggled through labor and she waited for me after the emergency circuit that finally took place.
She will stay in the couple’s new residence Frogmore Cottage
I was chased out of a daughter’s birth suite and I returned a mother, and from that moment my relationship with my mother became so much deeper and deeper than I had ever thought.
“I’m sorry for everything,” I told her while holding my child.
At that moment she decided not to remind me of the whole time that I was a snot and that she said ominously: “One day you will have children, then you will know what you did to me!”
They watched Meghan become the Duchess of Sussex and watched family members give paid interviews about the former actress.
Doria has quietly supported her daughter through every hardship and now she will support her daughter through one of the most incredible experiences she will ever have.
While Meghan is praised for her reported decision to keep paid staff to a minimum, including royal nanny for her children, she still needs her mother
And Doria will be there for her, not just for birth and those first few difficult weeks, but for the rest of her life.
Just like my mother was there for my first child who is now 15.
She is there more than ever for me and for him, the only person we can both rely on to be there when we need her.
There is even speculation that Doria is planning a permanent move from her California home in the US to Windsor, which would be a godsend to Meghan, whose best friends continue to live in the US as she governs royal life across the pond.
So far she is doing well, maintaining a dignified silence when it comes to family matters.
It is the royal way.
Although in Meghan I hope for a more realistic version of royal life as a mother, contrary to what we have seen of Kate Middleton born of the birth of each of her three children, looking only hours later, happy and relaxed and very far from someone who has just given birth.
Meghan is already doing things differently, allegedly booking in a private maternity ward in Windsor instead of giving birth in the Lindo wing at St. Mary’s Hospital in London, where the Duchess of Cambridge and Princess Diana gave birth.
The Duchess and her mother are incredibly close.
She will also reportedly skip the photo call hours after giving birth, instead choosing to relax in motherhood in a private life before presenting her baby to the world.
Meghan, with the full support of Harry, does things her way, which is the golden rule when it comes to parenting.
You have to make the choices that make you most comfortable and support yourself with the full support of your partner.
If Prince Harry has shown himself as something, he has shown himself an incredibly protective and supportive partner for Meghan, and he will certainly be even more when their first child arrives.
And nothing is more supportive than feeling completely at ease when you come to keep your mother-in-law after your first child has arrived.
Well played Harry, well played.