Erika Owens’ relationship with Stephanie Matto took place on 90 Day Fiance in the most terrible way. Now the Australian photographer talks about the experience and defends Stephanie even from those who say she is not gay.
It all started when Stephanie Matto made her way to meet Erika Owens face to face after the couple had already had a relationship online. But from the moment Stephanie Matto hit rock bottom, every interaction she had with Erika Owens was really, really embarrassing.
The couple spent most of the trip arguing, and eventually Erika and Stephanie broke up over some serious trust issues – and Stephanie Matto’s reluctance to come out with her mother.
90 Day Fiance: Erika Is Finally Speaking Out About Her Relationship With Stephanie.
Ever since their first encounter and their explosive breakup played on reality TV, 90 Day Fiance fans have wondered if the first LGBTQ couple launched by the franchise was real. In particular, many think that Mad Stephanie is not gay.
When given the opportunity to move on, Erika stepped forward in Stephanie’s defense, explaining that sexuality is not always so easy to understand.
“Honestly, I can only speak for my experience and who I am,” Erika told Entertainment Tonight. “Sexuality is a very personal thing, and sometimes you have to, like, explore yourself to be able to understand it, you know? It sucks that at times I felt like understanding things was at my own expense, but I’m not going to stand here and say she’s something or she’s not, because this is her personal journey.
“I don’t think it’s fair to say that to a stranger, and secondly, you know, just to pass judgment,” she continues. “Sure, people may have doubts or whatever, but as I said before, this is Steph’s journey, and it’s nobody’s place to go looking for her publicly.”
Although their time together was short, Stephanie Matto had a significant impact on Erika Owens. Erika Owens said that if she knew that Stephanie would have a problem with so many things in her life, she wouldn’t bother to meet her.
“Honestly, we didn’t sleep in the same room or even the same hotel room for more than four nights, which was… you know, I really couldn’t spend much time with her other than what you saw,” Erika explained.
Erika also said she was “very surprised” by things Stephanie Matto had a problem with, including their first date. Erika took Stephanie to make casts of their breasts. Stephanie also had issues with Erika’s friends.
It was that final breakup when Stephanie Matto got angry about a relationship that Erika Owens had before they even met, which left a lasting impression. Stephanie got so angry that she smashed a bowl on the floor, which upset Erika.
“Once the cameras went off, I wasn’t in a good place for a while afterwards,” Erika Owens said of the breakup. “After the bowl was thrown, I was in bed for quite a while, and I started crying. It wasn’t good for me mentally. I wouldn’t say I was afraid for my life or anything, but you know, it was a very intense moment that really scared me and put me in a kind of very negative mental space that wasn’t great … For a couple of weeks after that, I wasn’t well.”
Ultimately, Erika Owens doesn’t know if she and Stephanie can ever work things out in the future. What she said, though, was that if they had realized earlier how incompatible they were, they could have gone their separate ways and still be friends.