In a jaw-dropping moment on the October 20 episode of Sister Wives, Kody Brown revealed that his previous marriages with Meri, Janelle, and Christine were more toxic than he realized. In a candid confession, the former polygamist admitted, “I was in terrible relationships but wasn’t willing to discard them.” Kody said his marriage to Robyn Brown made him see how lacking his previous marriages were.
“You don’t know you’re in a bad relationship. You just think you’re in a normal relationship because all your friends have the same problem,” Kody explained, hinting that his newfound connection with Robyn provided him with the emotional intimacy he had been missing.
Taking a controversial turn, Kody also discussed the volatile dynamics in his failed marriages. “Some people call it F&F,” he said. “And the second word is fight. Or F&F and the first word is fight. That doesn’t create intimacy; that just creates orgasms.” This comment did not sit well with viewers, with many accusing Kody of deflecting blame and making light of his failed marriages.
Heartbreak in the Brown family 💔 Meri and Kody dive deep into their split. Watch it unfold on #SisterWives, Sunday at 10/9c. pic.twitter.com/pLEh9mPgoO
— TLC Network (@TLC) October 20, 2024
Meri Brown: Kody’s Most Challenging Marriage
In the episode, Kody Brown called his marriage to Meri Brown his most toxic relationship. He admitted he should have ended it decades ago. “This marriage was on the rocks the entire time,” he confessed. “I should have gotten out of the relationship 25 years ago.”
Kody and Meri married in 1990 after a six-month courtship. But, their relationship deteriorated over the years. They divorced in 2014 to allow Kody to marry Robyn and adopt her kids. But, they continued their spiritual marriage until finally ending it in 2022.
Meri and Kody have since transitioned their relationship to what Kody describes as friendship. “I don’t want any more enemies, and I don’t want another loss,” Kody said, expressing hope that Meri would reach out to him with positive updates in the future. “I just hope that in the future, Meri will call me when she’s got something fun to share.”
However, Kody’s attempt at reconciliation seemed to carry a hint of regret. “I’m embarrassed that my other divorces have created contempt and contemptuous enemies,” he said, referring to the fallout with Christine and Janelle.
Divorce brings tough conversations… and Meri’s ready to speak her truth. Don’t miss #SisterWives, Sunday at 10/9c. pic.twitter.com/KWWIBUeL9Q
— TLC Network (@TLC) October 19, 2024
“Don’t Blame Me, Blame Yourself”: Kody Sparks Outrage with Bold Statements
As tensions simmered during Kody’s visit with Meri, he dropped another controversial comment. “Don’t blame me for not loving you. I was doing my duty,” he said in a confessional. “Blame yourself if I don’t love you, OK?” Kody’s remarks triggered backlash from viewers. Many accused him of dodging accountability and projecting his failures onto his ex-wives.
Kody Brown continued to shift blame, saying, “When I’m in love with a woman, that’s her fault… So what happens when I’m not in love with a woman? Is that just my fault?” He went on to describe how love motivates him to serve, pamper, and cherish his partner. “If I want to rub her feet, buy her jewelry, or carry in her groceries… if I’m in love with a woman, I think that’s her fault.”
Meri Brown wasn’t impressed by Kody’s view. Their talk grew tense when she brought up her choice to end their spiritual marriage. The final straw came when Kody objected to the church’s description of their split as “abandonment.” Kody told Meri, “I did say I could fake through it,” but Meri shot back, laughing, “Yeah, I’m not interested in faking a relationship.”
The way Meri is looking at him 😂😂#SisterWives
— Courtney Dione (@courtneydione) October 21, 2024
Sister Wives: Kody Struggles with Accountability
The emotional fallout between Kody Brown and his ex-wives continues to play out on Sister Wives. With Christine, Janelle, and Meri all having left the marriage, Kody’s relationship with Robyn is now his only remaining union. However, his comments reflect a deeper struggle with accountability and self-awareness.
Kody is embarrassed by his broken marriages. But, he wants to deflect blame. “I was doing my duty,” he insisted, casting his failed relationships as the fault of his former wives. These remarks show a theme in Kody’s behavior. He struggles to accept responsibility for his family’s collapse.
Meri, for her part, seemed relieved to move forward without pretense. By filing for a spiritual divorce, she seeks authenticity. It signals her refusal to pretend in an unfulfilling relationship.